Have you recently considered attending an AA meeting due to a problem with alcohol or substance abuse? If so, here are some guidelines to help you. Remember that seeking professional assistance doesn't mean you're weak, but it speaks to your courage and inner strength. Everyone needs help and support and being clear on what you need, is a great first step.
Going to Your First AA Meeting
If you plan on attending AA, then here are some helpful tips on what to expect:
Choose the Appropriate Meeting
Depending upon where you live, there may be several AA meetings near you. Attending one that is close is a nice option for convenience however, it's also important that the meeting be a good "fit" for you. Therefore, you may want to attend several different meetings before committing to one. For example, find three of four different meeting locations in your area, attend each meeting, and then choose which environment feels best to you. It's important to feel comfortable in whichever setting you choose.
Arrive to the Meeting Early
You don’t have to arrive to the meeting too early, but a couple of minutes before the start of the meeting is helpful. This allows you time to find it and settle in before it begins. You can be as friendly or quiet as you like and find a seat that feels safe. Showing up early will give you an opportunity to take in the environment and get a feel for the set up and the other members in attendance.
Expect to See All Types of People
When you attend an AA meeting, you will see all different types of people — young, old, wealthy, poor, etc. All types of people suffer from alcohol and substance abuse issues. Be respectful and keep an open mind. Everyone there is facing a struggle so you know you are not alone.
Listen and Relax
Many new participants are anxious for their first meeting. They don't know what to expect and may want to stay anonymous. This is exactly the point of the meeting- anonymity. You are not required to do anything- you can simply show up and listen. AA members are not there to pressure anyone into speaking. People speak when they feel empowered to. This allows you to to be as calm and relaxed as possible — you've got nothing to fear. Other members may be curious about you, but you can politely say, I'm here to listen. If you do want to speak, that is fine too but remember it's perfectly okay to just listen. Only do what you feel comfortable doing.
Getting Healthy
The whole purpose of attending an AA meeting is to get healthy and to fight your alcohol and/or substance abuse problem. Therefore, it will be important to find a meeting that fits with who you are and meets your needs! Give them a chance because you might be surprised by how powerful they are. Family members of alcoholics can attend an Al-Anon meeting. This can help move the family system to a healthier place.
